American woman dating an indian man

Ironically, as the incidence of Western women taking part in this behavior increases, Indian man’s desire to marry the Westerner may increase as more and more modern Indian women are not interested in being so confined and traditional.Ironic that a Westerner is willing to be more traditional than an Indian (who is stereotyped as more traditional), isn’t it?When his family accepts you; you are now family, so in his mind he is more willing to be open and available to you.

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The first time these couples meet face-to-face is when one saves up enough money to travel to the other.

In some cases, their first face-to-face encounter is also when they decide to marry.

Many Americans hold an ideal that regardless of social standing, culture, economic status, educational background and religion, love will overcome all these problems and make everything ‘ok.’ This can be true if and only if the couple have extensive discussions before marriage about expectations after marriage and into the long term, such as both partners’ career aspirations, family planning, traditions, values, choosing the place to live among many other variables.

Of course, not everything can be breached ahead of time.

Because the Western woman is wrapped up in the exotic that is India; the traditional culture with the perceived higher sense of family values due to living in an extended family, and the idea of love conquering all, she is blinded by the reality that is about to hit her like a pile of bricks.

The honeymoon in many of these cases never begins or ends before the marriage takes place.

There is no honeymoon because the culture shock, reality and gravity of the situation hits the woman sometimes as soon as the heat hits her face as she deboards the plane.

Many say “The first year of marriage is the hardest.” This is often said among Americans who marry other Americans – not in a typical cross-cultural relationship.

That is one reason why many American programs broach the hard choices people make and situations that arise when one partner says “I love you” and the other isn’t ready to say it yet.

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