Companies with abusive or intimidating behavior

If you are taken aback because someone in power makes advances, it is absolutely right and imperative that we not pretend it isn’t happening.

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Your boss may be bullying you if he intentionally assigns you tasks that he knows you are unqualified to complete and constantly finds fault with your work.

Your co-workers may be bullying you if they give you the "silent treatment" or otherwise consistently ostracize you. Superiors, peers or even subordinates may sabotage your work to provide a pretext for disciplining you or even firing you.

He left the company and sued her–and she lost her job.

How can you best respond to workplace intimidation? If you are leading a meeting, show that you expect everyone to be polite and respectful. Say, “Please, John, Marie was speaking.” If you are interrupted, keep talking firmly or say, “I’d like to finish.” Put your hand up and palm forward so they know you mean business. Instead, take a breath, look him or her directly in the eye, and respond (perhaps even with a smile) “I’m glad you asked” or “Yes, I am sure.” Such responses show that you welcome the opportunity to explain.

Workplace intimidation includes illegal sexual harassment and discrimination, but is not limited to illegal behavior.

Such behavior is destructive to the victim and the company.

On the second day of Ellen Pao’s testimony earlier this month, the former Kleiner Perkins partner told the court that the VC firm expected her to participate in an “interrupt-driven environment.” They even gave her coaching so she could interrupt back.

This statement during one of Silicon Valley’s highest-profile gender discrimination suits to date says a lot about the intimidating work environment many female–and male–leaders face.

People will respect you more if you do not tolerate interruptions. And the smile shows that you are not intimidated–and that you find the questions slightly amusing or even gratifying because they provide a platform for your confident answer. Realize that this is an opportunity to show you are not afraid.

If someone comes at you with vitriol like, “How can you say that? Make your eye contact just as long and as strong as the other person’s.

From scathing put-downs to pointed words like, “Really? I experienced aggression in meetings when I was a young speechwriter as part of a PR team of bright professionals.

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