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“The guy I dated had a five-year-old daughter who wouldn’t talk to me and just scowled whenever I was around,” says Melissa Lane, 36, of New York City.“It was hard, but I kept reminding myself of the pain she’d just been through—and gave things a good amount of time to settle down.” And patience is indeed a very valuable asset for anyone juggling love and kids.Although your mate may have set times to be with his children, those plans can change at any minute if the kids are sick or his ex has an emergency or it’s a school vacation.
Because when it comes to having a relationship with a man who has kids, you’ll need to follow a whole new set of guidelines.
To help you maneuver your way through this scenario, we asked experts and people who’ve been there for tips on the best way to date a dad. “If he doesn't make his kids a priority, that's a major red flag for me,” says single-dad dater Susan Avery, 35, of New York City.
It also means his kids play a role in how he feels about you.
“Though I’m not looking for a replacement mother, I do want someone who’ll be involved in my daughters’ lives and will help me as I raise them,” says divorced dad Marty Tate, 33 of Salt Lake City, UT.
While not exactly a cause for celebration, the fact that he pays child support tells you that he’s responsible and committed—and that’s priceless.
The only predictable thing about life with kids is that it’s unpredictable.
And did we mention an ex-wife who doesn’t love the idea of another woman making her children pancakes?
Whatever rules you’ve applied to dating in the past, just throw them out the window.
My previous blog ("Should You Date Your Ex-Spouse," dated 1/17/11) made the audacious proposal for considering dating an ex-spouse, since the likelihood of strong positive feelings when getting married could create a positive basis for a renewed relationship, if both parties have matured and stopped blaming each other.
Dating an ex-spouse should not be simply a response to loneliness, matter of convenience and/or lack of alternatives.
Basic requirements for ex-spousal dating exploration include a significant duration between divorce and dating, a strong belief in change, and considerable courage to go back into a potentially stressful relationship with "old baggage" that may trigger unresolved bad feelings, no matter how good one's intentions.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating