Dating customs 19th century Sex chat trial game

They revered courtship and love, despite their strict moral code and rules of etiquette.

To gatherings, young women were chaperoned, usually by their mothers or some other married woman, to ensure nothing 'improper' occurred.

by the publishing house of Dick & Fitzgerald of New York presents more letter forms for refusing a proposal than it presents for encouraging a suitor!

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They were exposed to temptations unknown to most of their fathers in a society more restrictive than that which their sons would enjoy.

Women were at even more of a disadvantage in that restrictive society as they still could not seek out men or make "the first move." Their prerogative was, as was often quoted, "but to accept or decline".

Your conduct during the last two years has been made known to me, and, viewing you in the light of a dangerous man, I do not desire anymore intimate acquaintance.

I could not reasonably expect happiness from a union with an individual who has destroyed the mental quiet of more than one young person, by his total disregard for what is due to the weaker by the stronger sex..." Indeed, men of the period seem to have had such a predilection for going astray that the "courtship" section also includes a lengthy epistle entitled "Remonstrance of a young lady against the reckless life of her future husband".

The man who assisted in effecting a brother's ruin, is not a suitable partner for his sister; and a moment's reflection might have convinced you that your agency in the matter to which I allude, has earned for you, not the love, but the unchangeable dislike of..." "Sir.

-- There was a time when your addresses would have flattered and pleased me, but that time has long since passed away.

When you can convince me that, in point of age, fortune, and morals, you are such a person as I can, without reproach, take for my husband, and constitute the guardian of my children, I shall cease to suspect, that motives not the most honorable have induced you to play the lover to a woman sufficiently old to be your mother.

I hope I have said enough to make you ashamed of your conduct..." The young men of 1879 stood between two ways of life in a time of great change in America.

At least enough young men had to be trying that route in order to justify the letter manual's inclusion of "Refusal on the grounds that the suitor is much younger than herself".

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