Dating in the muslim religion

Though love is something nice, and it is recommended for a man to marry a woman whom he loves, because the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “There is nothing better for two who love each other than marriage.” (Sahih Al-Jami`, 5200)However, this love should not be overwhelming and cause a person to forget other characteristics which he should look for in the person he wants to marry.

The most important characteristic is religious commitment.

Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.

The couple, however, are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone.

As the Hadith says: “When a man and a woman are together alone, the Shaytan (Satan) makes their third.”One of the conditions of a valid marriage is the consent of the couple.

Romance and love simply do not result in an everlasting bond between two people.

In most cases, romance and love die out very quickly when couple find themselves with the real world.

There is even an entire surah (chapter) named Al Talaq (The Divorce).

Marriage in Islam is a beautiful way for two people to bring together their families, heritage and culture for the purpose of bringing more little Muslims into the world, in love, commitment and dedication to Allah, His Book, His prophet, peace be upon him, and surrender to Him in peace (Islam).

Question #1The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, says: “Three qualities, if found in a person, will help him have perfect faith: Having Allah and His Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, as the most beloved ones, loving a person only for the sake of Allah and hating getting back to Kufr (disbelief) the way one hates to be thrown into fire.” That means love is a fruit of piety. There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practiced in the West.

There is no dating or living in de facto relationship or trying each other out before committing to each other.

ROMANCERomance, if not checked, may mean wasting time, effort and dignity. Besides, the concept of love in Islam is very unique, when a Muslim loves something or somebody, it must be for the sake of Allah; the same applies to hatred.

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