Dating with someoe who has herpes

My good friend with the active case says she may only get one or two outbreaks a year, and they are really minor irritations that don't last long. Since the statistics say that 25% of adults have been exposed to herpes at some point, and many, many of those are totally asymptomatic and may not even have any idea they have been exposed, it seems better to practice safe sex, and be honest, and be realistic and not run screaming from the cooties. Sex is an important part of my relationships and his VD would get in the way of that. Probably- 1/4 (I've heard it's moving to 1/3) people in my age group have it. )--- whereas I'd have herpes infected balls slapping against me, not at all protected by a condom. To me, it's literally on the same level as someone being HIV or having AIDS. The very few people I have known with herpes have been, to me, what I call extremely promiscuous (once you get over about a dozen, I consider that promiscuous). I'm not saying there wouldn't be a guy who could make me change my mind, but I doubt he exists. She has been married for 20 years, and with her husband for years before that. The very few people I have known with herpes have been, to me, what I call extremely promiscuous (once you get over about a dozen, I consider that promiscuous). I'm not saying there wouldn't be a guy who could make me change my mind, but I doubt he exists.

I think she said she takes the medication that is used during an outbreak, not daily.

Another friend has asymptomatic herpes...outbreaks, no symptoms at all, but has the potential to infect someone when the virus is active.

Why the heck would I want to risk having to mess with cootchie sores for the rest of my life? She has been married for 20 years, and with her husband for years before that.

They are careful during outbreaks, which she can always feel coming on, and her husband has not gotten herpes in all those years.

You might get a benign version through extremely benign (non-sexual) means. I say that with the realization that I don't know just *how* difficult it is to prevent transmission, and whether that means there can't ever be spontaneous sex.

But being willing to date someone isn't the same thing as making a lifetime commitment. I think in that time she had one minor outbreak, and it was hands off the entire time.

But since she has no symptoms, and didn't even know she had it, she has no idea when to be "safe".

She informed her current partner when they started getting to that point in the relationship, and he educated himself about the slight, very slight, according to the doctor, risk, and decided he was okay with that. Another guy she was starting to date before her current fellow read all the information, got educated too, but decided he was too afraid.

While promiscuous people probably do have higher rates of infection statistically, I think it's important to emphasize you don't have to be promiscuous to get it.

Anyone who has slept with 3 or 4 people, as Diosa noted, has most likely been exposed to The Herp and may quite possibly be an asymptomatic carrier of it.

Just being human is risky, apparently.)Not to mention the chance of cancer of the cervix, penis, anus, or mouth.

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